Sympathy or Empathy? That Is The Question...


Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

  • There are two sides to emotional intelligence. Not only do emotionally intelligent leaders understand and articulate their feelings. They are also able to understand and articulate the feelings of other people.
  • The limitations of sympathy. In an attempt to establish a connection, a leader might sympathize with someone by sharing their own story. While helpful in letting someone know they’re not alone, sympathy robs someone of an opportunity to be understood and accepted.
  • Empathy can be developed. If you are not naturally empathetic, a willingness to grow and a simple development plan can do wonders. And if empathy is intuitive for you, continue to work at not only mastering this critical skill but pass on what you have learned to others. 

When someone else is in pain, healthy leaders prioritize compassion over connection. As important as it is for someone to feel they are not alone, it is even more important for them to feel understood and accepted.

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Pastor Duke Kwon on Small Steps Towards Cross-Cultural Community

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

We live in the tension between God’s ‘already’ and ‘not yet.’ One day, the Church will live forever with God in the beauty of diversity. And while that day is not today, you and I can pray and dream and take small steps towards God’s preferred future.

Barnabas Piper on Doubt, Curiosity and Preachers’ Kids

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

Being curious and leaving room for doubt is a critical secret of healthy leadership. Not only is it vital to cultivate that kind of culture in your church, it’s important that you give yourself permission to live this out yourself.

Secret #12: Should Men Who Are Church Leaders Learn From Women?

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

  • Our heroes have feet of clay. With gratitude and respect for the work and legacy of John Piper, his conviction that female professors should not teach in seminary is both extra-biblical and unhelpful. 
  • Men are underdeveloped without the help and wisdom of women. Issues get ignored. Perspectives go unchallenged. And roles and relationships in a local church don’t thrive.
  • Learning from women is easier than you think. Take the initiative to listen to the women already around you. Learn from women you agree with. Learn from women you disagree with. 

As we ride a wave of gender equality (#metoo), Christian leaders should be at the forefront based on the ontological equality of men and women. But history tells us that men do not intentionally listen and learn from women leaders without a push in the right direction. Consider this your nudge.

Secret #11: How Healthy Churches Respond To Sexual Abuse Allegations

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

Few challenges are greater in a church than a leader accused of sexual abuse or sexual assault. Churches consistently rush to conclusions rather than take appropriate measures to protect everyone and pursue justice. This episode provides a step-by-step plan for turning intention into reality.

Secret #10 - A Simple Way to Lose Fat and Live Longer

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

From our perspective, the biggest hang up to walking is the perception that it’s not strenuous enough. Leaders are notorious for believing that the only way to achieve good results is to take the hardest path. Let me modify it for you - the best path is the smartest path, not necessarily that which is most treacherous. When it comes to walking, simple, slow and steady wins the race. 

Jason Cook on Calling and Pastoring a Multi-Ethnic Church

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

  • The Gospel and Race. Issues of racism (personal or systemic) or building communities that cross the lines of race are not incidental to the gospel. They are not implications. They are at the heart of the good news of Jesus.
  • The Role of Women in the Development of Pastors. Anyone training for vocational ministry in seminary needs both men and women to help develop the competence and character necessary to pastor well.
  • The Hard Road to Becoming a Multiethnic Church. The road to diversity is littered with well-meaning majority culture churches who hire a single person of color on their staff as the solution to their problems. Becoming a more diverse church will require patience and persistence.

Consider the cost. It is one thing to see the good news of God’s people. It’s another thing to develop the conviction that people are equal, regardless of the color of their skin. But living and leading in that direction will not happen without a cost. Be wise and get ready. The road is bumpy and the climb is steep.

Yancey Arrington on Preaching That Moves People

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

  • Tribal Preaching. Our theology, philosophy, and methodology of preaching find common ground with others who share our convictions. Finding and actively engaging our tribe helps strengthen our resolve and clarify convictions. However…
  • No tribe has all the answers. Each tribe’s approach to preaching contains both wisdom and flaws. We need to learn broadly to shore up weaknesses and reduce our blind spots.
  • Preach to the heart. Preachers must be winsome, not only contending for truth but compelling their listeners to respond by preaching to their heart. 

Preaching the gospel of Jesus in every sermon from the biblical text is a hallmark of Christian preaching. And because this news is so good - almost too good to be true - each of us who preach should consistently refocus our efforts on the motivational structure of people's hearts.

Secret #9 - Make Your Kids A Bigger Priority Than Your Work

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

We know you love your kids more than your work. But do they know that’s true? This episode will help you match how you feel with what they experience. 

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We’ve put together a handful of questions that you can use to create significant conversations with your son or daughter. If you’re stuck in a rut of asking the same couple of questions and experiencing diminishing returns in the answers of your kids, take a look at what we made for you.

Secret #8 - Lessons Learned From Dr. King

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

Church leaders are notorious for closing themselves off to other leaders with different perspectives. Healthy leaders intentionally build relational bridges to learn and experience a world much bigger than themselves. 

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