emotional health

How To Find The Right Coach For You

Brief Overview

“Is that coaching?” “No, that’s not coaching.” “Here’s what coaching looks like.” This is the conversation among church leaders when it comes to coaching, and it’s largely unhelpful. The truth is there are three primary ways to coach leaders and you should choose the approach that is most helpful to you right now.

 

Types of Coaches:

  • Mentor - Coaches who have been successful where you are struggling. Priority is on information that shows you how they achieved success.

  • Pastor - Coaches who care for you as you lead. Priority is on confirmation of God’s love for you and his calling on your life.

  • Trainer - Coaches who put you in the best position to succeed. Priority is on their dedication to helping your reach your goals.

Here Are 5 Life-Changing Benefits of Hiring A Coach

Brief Overview

Call them mentors, trainers, coaches - we all have people who have helped us grow into the best versions of ourselves in different parts of life. But far too many leaders don’t have coaches, leaving them operating at less than full capacity. So in this episode, Matt and Tal talk about the life-changing benefits of coaching and why the smart move for you is to hire a coach. 

Benefits of Coaching:

  • Great coaches slow you down. Your life is moving fast. Your coach should create space for you to take the time to look around and see what’s happening in your life and leadership.

  • Great coaches help you focus. You can’t work on everything today, so your coach should help you determine what matters most right now. 

  • Great coaches lock out shame. Your coach should proactively ask how they can help you.

  • Great coaches keep you honest. Your coach should help you know your limitations and what to do when you’ve bitten off more than you can chew.

  • Great coaches play the long game. Your coach should help you clarify and take the next right step in your life and leadership. 

No Leader Has Ever Been Encouraged Too Much

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

  • Words matter. Every leader needs to know they’re making a difference. You’re not crazy for wanting to hear particular words about how you make the world better.
  • Discouragement is deadly. Pay attention to the warning signs of discouragement. It’s one thing to have a bad day, but when every day is a bad day…
  • Developing courage is a project. Dive into the reasons you feel discouraged. And do the work to get your feet under you and be the leader God created you to be. 

Let us help you build courage. Matt will help you take action.

It’s simply not enough to know that it’s important to lead with courage. You have to take what you know and put it into action. Let us help you take the awareness that you built by listening to this episode and take action.  Learn more here.

Secret #5 - How To Drama-Proof Your Holidays, Workplace and Everyday Life

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want To Miss:

  • Know your role. When conflict erupts, are you the perpetrator or victim? And if you aren’t directly part of the conflict, help the people involved to understand their roles.
  • Take a step forward. Both the victim and perpetrator need to clarify how old they feel during the conflict and take a physical step towards responsibility.
  • Decide on a better future. Once apologies have been made and tensions have de-escalated, brainstorm options together. Then negotiate and work with each other until you decide how to move forward. 

Are Your Relationships Healthy?

Guest post by Tal Prince.

We have all sat through some roll calls in our life, and the more formal authority figures sometimes required us to respond, “present.” 

What did you mean when you answered? Did you mean that you were fully there, or did you mean that you were merely physically in the room? 

For most of us, we meant we were physically there, but that was about it.

Is that true for you during staff meetings and lunches with friends? Is it sometimes true in your marriage or with your children? 

It is so easy these days to be physically present, but mentally and emotionally distracted. Of all the shortages we have in our world, we are not suffering a shortage for distraction.

Does God Really Love You?

Does God Really Love You?

I know that conventional wisdom tells us that people assume and take advantage of God's love, but I simply have not found that to be true in my life and the lives of friends and clients.

I know that I don't believe God loves me because I don't love him (with all my heart, soul, mind and strength), and I don't love the people God has put around me (as much as I love myself). My failure to love is not because I am presumptuous. I do not love because I am convinced I am neither loved nor loveable.

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