leadership

Mailbag: Weird Prayers, Prayer Walks and What Would Jesus Pray

Brief Overview:

In this final episode in our month long series on prayer, Matt and Tal answer five of questions they are most frequently asked questions church leaders have about prayer:


Your Questions About Prayer:

  1. When is the best time to pray?

  2. What resources on prayer do you recommend the most?

  3. How do I fit everything in that I need to pray for?

  4. Any recommendations on corporate prayer meetings?

  5. What do we think of [approach to prayer that you don’t like]?

How To Pray For Your Church

Brief Overview

In this third episode in our month long series on prayer, Matt and Tal walk through four critical questions every pastor needs to ask as they create a plan to pray for their church:

 

Questions For Your Prayer Plan:

·         Who am I praying for?

·         When and where am I going to pray for them?

·         What am I going to pray for them?

·         Who else can I develop to pray with me?

What Sex Teaches Pastors About Prayer

Brief Overview

In this second episode focused on prayer, Matt and Tal talk about people’s desire for intimacy, what sex teaches pastors about prayer, and answer questions about counseling and praying for people where sexual attraction is felt or possible.

Big Ideas From This Episode

·         Everyone craves intimacy - to know and be known

·         Intimacy and sex are not the same thing

·         Misused sex is a form of false intimacy

·         One vital way to recover true intimacy is through prayer

·         When pastors don’t pray for their people, we leave them more vulnerable to pursuing false forms of intimacy

Five Reasons Why Pastors Don't Pray

Brief Overview

Our work as pastors is profoundly spiritual yet when it comes to prayer, most pastors aren’t putting in the work. What’s going on? Here’s what we’ve seen and heard in our personal experience and in our coaching program with other pastors:


Why Don’t Pastors Pray?

  1. We don’t believe prayerlessness is a sin.

  2. We think we’re smarter than pastors from previous generations.

  3. We skip over parts of the New Testament where prayer is the priority.

  4. We think we have the power to change people.

  5. We don’t know how to pray.

What Else?

After you listen to the podcast, take 10 minutes to pray and write down what’s going on today that makes it so hard for you to pray.

How To Find The Right Coach For You

Brief Overview

“Is that coaching?” “No, that’s not coaching.” “Here’s what coaching looks like.” This is the conversation among church leaders when it comes to coaching, and it’s largely unhelpful. The truth is there are three primary ways to coach leaders and you should choose the approach that is most helpful to you right now.

 

Types of Coaches:

  • Mentor - Coaches who have been successful where you are struggling. Priority is on information that shows you how they achieved success.

  • Pastor - Coaches who care for you as you lead. Priority is on confirmation of God’s love for you and his calling on your life.

  • Trainer - Coaches who put you in the best position to succeed. Priority is on their dedication to helping your reach your goals.

Here Are 5 Life-Changing Benefits of Hiring A Coach

Brief Overview

Call them mentors, trainers, coaches - we all have people who have helped us grow into the best versions of ourselves in different parts of life. But far too many leaders don’t have coaches, leaving them operating at less than full capacity. So in this episode, Matt and Tal talk about the life-changing benefits of coaching and why the smart move for you is to hire a coach. 

Benefits of Coaching:

  • Great coaches slow you down. Your life is moving fast. Your coach should create space for you to take the time to look around and see what’s happening in your life and leadership.

  • Great coaches help you focus. You can’t work on everything today, so your coach should help you determine what matters most right now. 

  • Great coaches lock out shame. Your coach should proactively ask how they can help you.

  • Great coaches keep you honest. Your coach should help you know your limitations and what to do when you’ve bitten off more than you can chew.

  • Great coaches play the long game. Your coach should help you clarify and take the next right step in your life and leadership. 

Vic Doss on Losing 50 Pounds, Leading College Students and Why He Loves Oprah

Brief Overview

Matt sits down with Vic Doss from Watkinsville First Baptist Church to talk about leading college students, what’s missing in evangelical politics and the holistic transformation that took place in Vic’s life over the past 12 months.

Listen To Learn:

  • How Vic lost 50 pounds in a year

  • The moment Vic decided to stop using his phone for a month

  • How a church of 200 people has become a spiritual home for more than 2,500 college students since 2006.

  • The one question church leaders should be asking about politics

Should I Use A Smartphone?

Brief Overview

In the last of four episodes on how healthy leaders use their smartphones, Matt and Tal answer listener questions about the challenges and benefits of smartphone use.

Here are the questions Matt and Tal answer:

  • Is smartphone addiction a real thing?

  • What’s available to protect me from porn on my smartphone?

  • Should I ask people in our church not to use their phone when I preach?

  • Any tips on social media fasts? Are they helpful or just a placebo?

  • What are the spiritual benefits of healthy smartphone use?

  • Should I ditch my smartphone?. 

Take a (One-Day) Digital Detox

Brief Overview

In the second of four episodes on how healthy leaders use their smartphones, Matt and Tal talk through the details of taking a 24-hour break from your smartphone. They talk about why we get hooked on our phones, the benefits of taking a 24-hour break from our phones and how to take the next steps to freedom.


Benefits of a Digital Detox:

  • Freedom from FOMO: The fear of missing out (FOMO) is a problem compounded by the way our phones tap into our neurochemistry. A consistent break from your phone disrupts that connection and helps to create healthier phone habits.

  • Freedom from Overwork: Show us the person who is always on their phone, and we’ll show you a person who is working more than they should.

  • Freedom for Praying: Few challenges are more difficult to overcome than disconnecting from the constant distraction of your phone to make room for focused times of prayer.

  • Freedom for Play: When you have an entire day disconnected from your phone, you find time to enjoy unhurried opportunities for fun and leisure with family and friends.

Your Relationship With Your Smartphone? It's Complicated!

Brief Overview:

In the first of four episodes on how healthy leaders use their smartphones, Matt and Tal show you the possibilities of using your smartphone in a different way. In the face of increased concerns about the holistic impact of smartphone use, healthy leaders are reimagining their relationship with their phone.

Benefits of Better Smartphone Use:

  • Heightened sense of security and gratitude. Research shows that smartphone use increases the risk of loneliness and depression. Mentally healthy leaders limit the time they spend on their phone.

  • Improved sleep. Your phone emits a level of radiation that disrupts the quality of your sleep. Physically healthy leaders keep their phone in another room at night.

  • Better connections in relationships. Our relationships are damaged by decreased eye contact as we scroll our phones. Relationally healthy leaders set boundaries on their phones when they’re spending time with people. 

  • Better able to hear God. Your phone creates an untold number of distractions from the time you spend listening to God through the Scriptures and responding in prayer. Spiritually healthy leaders consider the cost of using your phone to fuel your relationship with God.

  • More productive at work. Your productivity will increase and you will feel better at the end of the day if you are not glued to your phone. Vocationally healthy leaders limit their access to work-related apps on their phone. 

Web Statistics