Healthy pastors have friends. But most pastors don’t have friends. So I asked Elliot Grudem to share what he’s learned helping pastors make friends through his work with Leaders Collective.
Pastoral work can be dehumanizing. In the eyes of most people, pastors are not actual people with feelings who are flawed and fallible. Pastors are seen as a commodity, often ignored until they’re needed and when they’re needed, they are expected to be immediately available.
Pastors need people who will encourage them. Ultimately, God is our great encourager but often he encourages us through other people, such as family and friends.
Friendships are necessary but most pastors have no friends. There is a difference between allies and confidants. Almost all of our work relationships are allies; confidants are harder to find. Elliot’s suggestion is to invest in relationships with other pastors who might become a confidant.