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Elliot Grudem on How Pastors Build Friendships

Brief Overview

Healthy pastors have friends. But most pastors don’t have friends. So I asked Elliot Grudem to share what he’s learned helping pastors make friends through his work with Leaders Collective.

Big Ideas:

  • Pastoral work can be dehumanizing. In the eyes of most people, pastors are not actual people with feelings who are flawed and fallible. Pastors are seen as a commodity, often ignored until they’re needed and when they’re needed, they are expected to be immediately available.

  • Pastors need people who will encourage them. Ultimately, God is our great encourager but often he encourages us through other people, such as family and friends.

  • Friendships are necessary but most pastors have no friends. There is a difference between allies and confidants. Almost all of our work relationships are allies; confidants are harder to find. Elliot’s suggestion is to invest in relationships with other pastors who might become a confidant.

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